thinking about how to communicate with young guys

I have a younger cousin who has take the college entrance exam and only the mark is just more than 200.it¡¯s hard to understand how he can get so low score. After the exam, I talked to him in order to give him some advice about how to live his college life and how to make sense of his own life. But he had no interests in it. When I ask him what do you think after the exam? The answer I want is his real thinking I hope it can touch him to grow up with the failure. However, the answer is just play! I go on my questions, how to play how long to play and with whom, then there is no answer. So I know he must be weary. So I turn the topic and try to fit his interesting, still aiming to make him think about his own life as a adult. but at last, I fail again. He refused to think so profound question. So , our talk end in the form of his offline.  At first, I want to guide his reflective thinking as Socrates to his young man, in which way I also talk to my friend. May be the method is not totally fit with the ¡°90s¡±. So I have to recheck my ideas about how to help them think in way of communication, especially with the young guys.